Emotional Balance Rituals for Parents (Before Teaching Your Kids)

A couple of years ago I posted a reel on Instagram with my daughter Claire. We were doing a visual of what it looked like to send positive energy.

This was just a simple 4 step process that I would teach her in our spiritual circles, so she could have a better understanding of what prayer was and how our prayers make their way around the world.

I never considered this would be so resonant, but that day over 275,000 people saw our little ritual and asked us to share more.

So little by little, when the timing was right, we would share things we were doing inside our spiritual circles at home.

I then began to have floods of DMs asking me, "how can I do this work with my kids, how can I teach them to be spiritual?" And my response was always the same - before you ever guide your children through their feelings, you lead by example.

You go first.

You show them how to process their feelings, by processing your own in front of them. I have found this approach is the ticket to earning their respect and helping them see  emotions can be handled and safely expressed.

This creates the trust and space for those moments when you are ready to share a parent-led emotional balance ritual with them, and they are open to it.

Emotional balance rituals start with you. They aren’t meant to make everything in your life feel positive or perfect, but rather feel empowered around.

I always describe emotional balance as the ability to know what you are feeling and then how to process it. This has nothing to do with feeling good all the time; it has to do with giving yourself the actual permission to feel.

By practicing these rituals on yourself first, they help you build an authentic example that can actually attract the attention of your child.

For instance, if I bring a sound bowl into my house and begin playing it without saying a word, usually people will come over and sit with me.

If I grab my essential oils and begin smelling them without saying a word, people will join me and ask if they can smell them too.

When you truly "go first" you create a field that does the attracting. Your awareness around your own emotions, does the same thing, it opens the field and models a foundation your child can feel and come into.

Now that we understand You Go First, lets take a deeper look at five foundational emotional balance rituals you can explore before sharing them with their children.

Ritual 1: Pulling Your Power Back

One of the most impactful emotional skills a parent can develop is the ability to recognize when their energy is tied up in unhelpful thoughts and do the work to find, unwind, and reset that thinking space. Children often experience their thoughts as absolute truths, but when you allow them to feel through that first, and come back to safety, they are then able to choose a different path.

When you learn to see through your own unhelpful patterns and correct it, it creates space for awareness and response instead of reaction. You can watch a reel here where I have a conversation with Claire about how to do this.

Ritual 2: Spiritual Circles 

Emotional balance can also be sensory and somatic. As you begin to master your inner state you can then open up this energy to your children. Using somatic tools like sound instruments, smoke, aromatherapy, the breath, and intentional inner guidance can become a way that you share your spirituality with your kids.

Here is a reel where I take Claire through a little cleansing process. You will notice I go first and then she follows. These circles not only look sweet, they are so productive because children learn through experience and a somatic atmosphere better than explanation. This setting offers exposure to how mindfulness and connection feels, and using the different cleansing elements can help anchor the nervous system into safety.

Ritual 3: Affirmations Without Spiritual Bypassing

Affirmations are powerful but only when they’re used with emotional connection, understanding, and sincerity. Parents, listen up: passing over emotions with a positive statement instead, can disconnect children from their inner experience.

It is so important that they have the space to say the true emotion they are feeling first and then get to a better place. Once they are there, you can then come in with the opposite and help them reprogram with new energy. I have a favorite affirmation to start the day and you can find it here:

Ritual 4: Grounding as a Reset Button

Grounding is one of the most essential emotional skills for humans. When a parent knows how to ground their energy, they are more likely to stay grounded in an emotional moment with a child.

Grounding is the practice of returning to your body, the present moment, and developing a sense of internal stability that helps you feel centered. Understand how to ground your energy is a huge emotional tool to have up your sleeve. Here is a reel on a conversation Claire and I had about grounding our energy on a hike in Kauai. 

Ritual 5: Sending Energy Through The Heart

The way that God shares energy with the world is through us. Many adults call it prayer, but I like to refer to it as sending energy. You can teach this concept to a child, after you have mastered it in your own right, at about the age 5. When you meditate and learn how to send healing energy to the collective, you are showing your child that there are ways that they can help others, by sending energy to those who need it.

When you are consistent with your own meditation practice, and your children see you sitting quietly, eyes closed, the sooner your child will want to model your behavior. This is when they usually will ask to join you, creating a moment of quiet reconnection that helps both of you. 

Children are deeply sensitive to energy, especially under the age of 7. So when you help give them direction on how they can use their energy and emotional undercurrents for good, it feels very empowering to them. 

Why Parents Must Practice First

Remember: You go first!  There is no better teacher than someone who leads and lives by example!  Emotional balance is transmitted through your tone, pace, nervous system regulation, and emotional honesty.

When you engage with these rituals personally, your emotional regulation becomes modeled, not demanded. And this is not about adding more to your plate, this is about shifting how you hold your energy. You're spending time either way, fighting it or making it work for you, so it is in your benefit to create the space and prioritize your own emotional balance so it becomes something lived, shared, and mirrored in your household. 

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With Light,

Sophie Frabotta, M.A.

Author, Certified Spiritual Life Coach, Healer

Hi! I am Sophie Frabotta. I am a heart-centered, soul leader who is so honored to be doing this work. With over 10,000 hours of 1-1 experience, a leader in the field of Spiritual Life Coaching, and a Globally recognized Spiritual Life Coach Certification – I teach students the depth of real transformation in a way that most have never seen. Having transformed my own body, mind and spirit, I am honored to take you into your inner chamber, show you how to lift out of karmic soul wounds and stabilize your higher vibration in 5D.