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  • Writer's pictureSophie Frabotta

10 Tips for Self-Love

Self-Love is the best medicine you can take! Deep down, so many people are struggling against their life. They have this disturbance deep within and what I have seen is that most of the time it goes back to a subconscious program practicing self-rejection instead of self-love. This subconscious choice leads to an inner turmoil that can show up as toxic relationships, addictions, energy leaks, issues with your career, problems with your children, and so on.

This is the holistic remedy that can begin to heal these problems from the inside out. Self-love leads to self-worth, self-confidence, and self-acceptance and all these vibrations are within your reach. The first step, is that you need to become aware of your own self-rejection habits and begin to catch these moments and see them as unhealed wounds and energy within you that still need healing.

Once you bring in the healing, you will be able to turn these old patterns into self-love and acceptance, making it easier to love those around you.

10 Tips to Self-Love

To help you understand what these 10 tips are, how they work, and how you can apply them in your life, I’m going to outline them here for you first. We have a bunch of free resources on our website that can help you with each of these steps, so make sure to check out those links!

  1. Begin Your Day with Gratitude

  2. Become Your Best Friend

  3. Find your Joy

  4. Stop Comparing

  5. Forgive Yourself

  6. Celebrate Yourself + Others

  7. Meditate

  8. Repeat Self-Love Affirmations

  9. Surround Yourself with Love

  10. Follow Your Intuition

Here are 10 tips that you can begin to work with to get your inner medicine of self-love flowing!

1. Begin your day with gratitude – not technology.

Right when you wake up, take a minute to first express gratitude. This will start your day on a positive note, and you can set an intention for your day with a grateful heart. We actually have a free eBook that will show you how to develop a great morning routine if you need support there.

2. Become your best friend.

Begin to tune into how you truly talk to yourself on the inside. Is it nice, or mean. To become more self-loving you need to learn to talk to yourself the way you would speak to your very best friend. At first you may notice that your inner conversation is not so nice. But just catch is and reword it in a friendlier statement. You’re listening to what you’re telling yourself, so be kind!

3. Find your joy.

There are very specific things that will light you up inside, and it is your job to get in touch with these things, and then make time for them in your life. Notice what lights you up, follow what feels good, and start to fill your heart by connecting your intention to your interests and passions.

4. Stop comparing yourself.

"Comparison is the thief of joy," attributed to President Theodore Roosevelt, shows us how detrimental this little negative habit can be. If we are going to do all this work to find our joy, we need to make sure we are not wiping it away with this bad habit of comparison, which only grows on the tree of self-doubt, not self-love. Focus on your own personal journey and if you must compare, just compare this version of you, to a past version of you!

5. Forgive yourself.

You are going to mess up, I am going to mess up, and guess what, it is ok! As you forgive yourself, your heart will open and you will experience acceptance and self-love. Check out our free resources and take a look at one of our workshops called Ho'Oponopono to understand forgiveness practice on a whole new level!

6. Celebrate yourself.

You are doing a good job. Life is not easy and is not meant to be challenge free, so take a minute and look at how much YOU ARE and celebrate yourself. Find your inner cheerleader and praise yourself for all you have gone through and how you are still standing as more than you ever have been. Self-recognition is part of self-love.

7. Meditate.

Go inward. Turn off the outside noise and learn to connect to yourself on your inner domain. I am a big fan of Spiritual Meditation and we have over 30 tracks on our website that you can listen to for FREE! And we have a playlist specifically for self-love that you can check out here. You can come here and listen to these meditations for free everyday to help you deepen your self-love practice!

8. Repeat Self-Love Affirmations.

When you dedicate time to loving yourself, your self-love, self-confidence, and self-worth will grow. A super powerful way to do this is to find an affirmation that really lights you up and then repeat that everyday. We have an affirmation album to assist you with just this and the 2nd track on the album is dedicated just to self love. You can listen for free here: Awaken Your Light Affirmation Album.

9. Surround yourself with love.

Notice who the supportive, positive and loving people are in your life! Thank them for being that way and get really clear on how you feel around others. Try to eliminate or reduce the amount of time you spend with negative people who can zap your energy and bring you down. Look for those who feel good, who you feel strengthened by, who you can ride high with. Pay attention to who you smile around and spend time with them!

10. Follow your intuition.

Your gut instinct or intuition is always whispering inside of you. It doesn't nag, or yell, it just gently directs you. But you have to listen in and get really quiet so you can hear it, then you have to truth it! This is like building a relationship with anything else, it can take time, but the results will be so worth it. This is why we need to create less noise so we can hear this inner voice. Tune in and listen to what it has to say.

Self-love is a practice, and needs to be practiced every day. It can take some time so be gentle with yourself. If you want to learn how to activate this kind of deep self- love, which I refer to as Soul-Love, step onto this path with us and become a Soul-Lover. Here we will show you how to transform the blocks that your human has been carrying around, and open you up to a world where soul love leads your way. It is happening in our program called: Awaken Your Soul's Magic, which is a 20 week process with 10 months of support from me, Sophie! It is in this healing space that we will peel back the wounds that keep you in the space of hurting and help you find the spiritual healing tools that will help you create and manifest your dream life!

If you are ready to dive a little deeper into this self-love work, check out our free masterclass and learn the 3 biggest things that I have found will help us heal and Awaken!

It really is a transformational experience to unlock the wounds that keep you in a not so loving relationship with yourself. When you learn how to practice self-love in a way that heals your wounds, you really will turn your self-rejection into deep acceptance, and transform your judgmental tone into one fueled by love.

If you need more support on your self-love journey, I am here for you!

By Sophie Frabotta, MA

Author, Certified Spiritual Life Coach, Healer

Hi! I am Sophie Frabotta, The Soul Whisperer, author, spiritual coach, guide and mentor and the founder of the Awaken Collective, where I help women like YOU to step into your heart and turn your wounds into freedom! I don't just teach you about this spiritual healing work, I teach you how to deeply heal the root wounds that have been holding you back, so that you can finally experience this inner freedom that only comes from walking this spiritual healing path. My Awaken Your Soul's Magic program will help you to move far beyond where you are now and wake up a part of yourself you have been dreaming to become. Your time is now!

You can start by watching our FREE masterclass here.

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