Why Saying YES to Yourself Sparks Transformation
- Sophie Frabotta
- 2 hours ago
- 5 min read
There’s a pivotal moment in your journey where something will come onto your path.
This could be an opportunity for growth, a career change, a new relationship, or even a creative inspiration that arises. It is at this point where your power is in your hands and you have a choice to make.
I call this a choice point.
It may be subtle at first, maybe it starts with a new awareness, or even a rising discomfort, but the one thing that remains the same is that there is a choice being presented to you if you will take the path or not.
And you get to choose!
However, it is nearly impossible to be energetically sovereign in your choices when you don’t have energetic awareness around your hidden wounding.
Without this awareness, you are not able to decipher between several things that can keep you looping exactly where you are.
Your intuition guiding you versus your trauma misleading you. If this is the case you will often be misled, thinking it is your intuition guiding you, when in fact it is your trauma and ego trying to protect you, which translates into you staying stuck in the same place you are in.
Your feelings versus their feelings. If you cannot tell the difference between what they feel, their opinions and approval and what you feel, it will be hard to get into true alignment with what your soul is calling you into.
Now that you can see how these two areas can affect your ability to say YES, let's examine the difference between your inner aligned Yes and No.
Detecting the Difference Between Your YES vs No
Yes Energy comes from your heart. It feels aligned, expansive, and true. It is pulsating inside and around your heart, which can even feel like a gentle opening in your chest, heart, or gut. This often carries sensations of lightness, warmth, and ease. It feels like a lifted and open energy.
It can be very still and quiet, but right under it you may feel like you want to smile and exhale. It can create excitement, deeper interest, or like something within you says “this is right.”
No Energy, however, will feel constrictive, protective and can create a tightness in your throat, chest, or stomach. Imagine the idea of clenching, NO just grabs on and might give you a sinking sensation, pressure in your chest or make you hold your breath.
These are clearly signs of a No.
When you have these clear signs between YES or NO with something as simple as eating salad or ice cream, it can be easier to distinguish and take aligned action.
However, it gets a bit trickier when you are looking to expand yourself energetically and spiritually and your EGO (Earth Guide Only) comes in and distracts you.
This happens more often than you would think. People often get confused at these evolutionary choice points and allow their disguised trauma and fear of change to actually keep them right where they are.
YES During Expansion Feels Different
Often when you are on the brink of real spiritual growth and emotional evolution, the ego will flare up with fear and keep you small.
The reason the EGO does this is because it does not like change, it would rather stay miserable in the known, then courageous in the unknown. (That act comes from the soul.)
The EGO then starts to distract you with all the reasons why you CAN'T do the thing.
The problem here is that most of these distractions will potentially be a waste of your time, not get you closer to your goals, or send you down a detour of headaches and missed opportunities.
When you are taking a leap into an unknown choice point, it will require faith (the muscle you need to use before something turns into fact.)
The opportunity here is to see if this choice you need to make will enable you to
1) make what you have planned even better
2) give you better perspective + more clarity
3) help you be even more aligned with your soul aligned life that you feel calling you.
If the answer to those is YES, then we need to drop into the heart and out of the head to feel if this choice point is aligned with your inner YES. We are only looking for information from the heart here, not the head, so pay close attention to where you are getting your information from. If you want to go through a meditation where I teach this very process, click here.
Saying YES to Yourself
If at this point you feel, sense, hear or even see an inner YES - you will feel it.
This connection with your heart field creates an energetic and vibrational frequency that calibrates your entire field to match what your soul has been calling in for lifetimes. The moment your energetic field resonates with the frequency of what you’ve been praying, healing, and preparing for, is when your breakthrough starts to peek through.
However, the mind and ego may also come back in at this point and it is up to you to catch it.
This calibration can feel magical when it arrives and saying YES at this point will come from the heart and soul of your being.
And if you have the courage to take action, when it finally comes, it may look like a sudden acceleration, or quantum leap.
This is what happens in our spiritual healing containers all the time. Once you say YES to yourself, a force field is created that creates a current and a Divine spark launches you from one state of consciousness to another.
Micro Choices create Macro Shifts
When you become a match for your higher self and begin saying yes to the NEW coming in, wounded patterns that have kept you small begin to surface. This is when you are ready for the real transformation.
When you’re willing to identify and release the addictions that once felt like safety: like perfectionism, people pleasing, over giving, and emotional chaos, you have a macro shift.
This is what we are teaching our students in our Spiritual Life Coach Certification everyday. Offering sustainable and peaceful administration of spiritual, psychological, and academic resources dripped out to you in a way where you can embody and integrate exceptionally.
Breaking free from your old patterns is one thing, but transmuting the energy that was holding that pattern in place is liberation.
This is how you move from awareness to embodiment and from intellectual "knowing" to energetic integration.
When you take full responsibility for your vibration, your reality begins to rearrange in your favor. Finding your YES and stepping into the version of you that is already free - is when the Universe can mirror back to you the clarity, peace, and power you have always carried within.
With Light,
Sophie Frabotta, M.A.
Author, Certified Spiritual Life Coach, Healer
Hi! I am Sophie Frabotta. I am a heart-centered, soul leader who is so honored to be doing this work. With over 10,000 hours of 1-1 experience, a leader in the field of Spiritual Life Coaching, and a Globally recognized Spiritual Life Coach Certification – I teach students the depth of real transformation in a way that most have never seen. Having transformed my own body, mind and spirit, I am honored to take you into your inner chamber, show you how to lift out of karmic soul wounds and stabilize your higher vibration in 5D.
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