The Most Beautiful Goodbye I’ve Ever Received

I went through more this week than I have in a long time, and I want to share this side of me - behind Awaken with Sophie. It started with a funeral for my grandma-in-law, who passed last week at the age of 100. She lived such a long life. She had 9 kids and endured the blend of love + pain, more than anyone I've ever known.

Yet 3 days before she died she was still saying in her rich Italian accent, “Sophia, I lova you.”

I had the privilege to know this matriarch for the past 19 years. Two days before her last breath she sang us a song, and Claire recorded it. That was the last song she ever sang and we get to have that memory forever. All because my intuition said, go be with her, her time is coming.

Now I don’t usually share this, but I have the gift of being a death doula. Not for hire, but for pure service. I have walked with 10 sacred souls through this portal and I hadn't planned on this, but yet another opportunity came knocking on my door and I had the privilege to assist grandma inside this energetic portal for the last 5 days of her life.

Now, I do want to share that I also assisted my own Grandma + Grandpa in the death portal along with some younger friends, and every time I come in to do this sacred work, it is different.

Souls have different scenarios and are presented with different choices inside the death portal. This is not something I ever trained for or asked for; it’s something my soul just knows how to do. I feel like I was anointed to share this gift with those I have known and loved.

Back to last week... I knew Grandma's time was near, but really didn't know just how close she was.

It was Thursday morning, the 5th day in this portal with her. In my eyes closed session, I walked in and found her in a situation that I will keep sacred, but told me the time for her to cross was very close. I came out of that session and noted the time, it was 6:34am.  

Then the call came in at around 8:20am. She made it to the other side.

My reaction surprised me. I wanted to jump up and celebrate and scream “you did it Grandma” like she just won the race. But the look on my husband’s face, dripping with grief, made me swallow that reaction. Inwardly I cheered her on, because I knew she had made the final leap of trust inside her earthly mission. She did it. I was so proud of her.

As my husband processed his human grief of losing his grandmother he loved, I held space for his human and also shared my experience of her transition.

Rich, being so accepting, shared a half smile out of the right side of his mouth and said "thanks for helping her." Arrangements were made and her funeral was planned for the following week.

The day of her wake, I had to energetically prepare myself for an open coffin. I thought, the last time I witnessed death this close: it shook my soul. But I prepared myself and just knew all the work I had done inwardly would be the post I could lean on to surf these moments.

I walked into the funeral home and immediately felt at peace. The soft sounds, the slideshow playing sharing photos from moments within the decades of her life, and then her shell laying there so still, was the first body I have seen that made death feel special, not scary.

I’d never seen someone look so pure laying inside a coffin. She had a look of relief on her face and it even looked like her. I was shocked. I wanted to walk up closer and say my goodbye, but didn't want to go alone. I asked my husband to go up with me, after he had said his goodbye privately. We walked up together, just like we had just 6 days prior into her room.

I told her how proud of her I was for taking that leap. I shared how much she was loved and thanked her for all the love she poured out of herself throughout her whole life.

The next day was her Catholic funeral. Claire had made the choice to join us for the funeral, but not the wake. I had been asked to do a reading and this is where it gets wildly interesting.

The reading was Revelation 21:1-5, 6-7

Now I am very spiritual. I went to a Christian college for my undergrad, a very untraditional Spiritual school for my Master's degree. I have a very tight relationship with Jesus, but no longer call myself a Christian.

I love God, Jesus, the Universe, and have an immense amount of Spiritual respect for however you connect with God, but found that I would rather not identify as a Christian, because this doesn't reflect the depth and openness of my beliefs.

I haven't cracked open the bible in a decade. But here I was asked to do this reading.

My spiritual work is very focused on healing the blocks and wounding that holds you back from your truth and light, as you remove those you lift your vibration and enter what I refer to as the New Earth.

Now this is where it gets wild. What was the first line in the reading I was asked to say?

"I, John, saw a new Heaven and a New Earth."

A New Earth - in a traditional catholic setting? Wow.

It goes on to say: "The former Heaven and the former Earth had passed away..."

As I was saying these words I felt them through my body, I started to vibrate. And then the line: "Behold, I make all things new. I am the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the End." It struck me. I felt grandma's presence appear (as I was reading) and whisper...

"this is my gift to you. This reading connects it all. There is no separation where I am, only wholeness, and I will speak to you in your language now, not mine."

I finished the reading and wondered how I was able to present and receive this message from her, while reading...wild.

I went back to my pew and my heart was racing, some from the nerves of public speaking, but more from the presence of this pure spirit interaction as I was reading.

It was like being high on air.

I then looked at the pew in front of me and began to see sacred geometry swirling and twirling as the symbol of the flower of life. These intricate designs and fundamental patterns of creation and unity lifted my consciousness and I felt grandma's presence say again, "You see me, I am speaking to you in your language." I said YES!

But ass sober and super clean from a 2 day detox that I had done leading up to this moment, I found myself tripping in that church and feeling the high frequency of grandma's soul.

Whoa. These past 10 days have shaken me awake. I felt so alive inside that death portal with Grandma.

On her departure she truly touched my heart showing me the truth of our spirituality; that when you die, you are made new. You return to God, the Creator of all that is, the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the End, and enter your fullest wholeness.

This Catholic service truly opened something in me. The rituals and the connection the Priest had with his own faith was breathtaking.

I will close by saying: I truly know that death is a beginning. I know it is hard for us in this third density to say goodbye to their physical form, but there is a whole new relationship waiting for you with them in a higher density.

I know so deeply that there is no separation from where I am and where grandma now exists.

I can connect to her wholeness, and to God's presence anytime my heart desires. This was the most significant and heart felt goodbye I have ever been a part of.

Thank you Grandma.

I share this with you because we all face these touching moments of life and death. And we also move through soul cycles as we experience those moments. If you are moving through the end of a soul cycle, I want you to remember that you are a unique expression of God's love and you are here to become the clearest channel for your soul’s truth. If you want a deeper take of what happens through these soul cycles of life, you can read more about soul cycles here.

With Light,

Sophie Frabotta, M.A.

Author, Certified Spiritual Life Coach, Healer

Hi! I am Sophie Frabotta. I am a heart-centered, soul leader who is so honored to be doing this work. With over 10,000 hours of 1-1 experience, a leader in the field of Spiritual Life Coaching, and a Globally recognized Spiritual Life Coach Certification – I teach students the depth of real transformation in a way that most have never seen. Having transformed my own body, mind and spirit, I am honored to take you into your inner chamber, show you how to lift out of karmic soul wounds and stabilize your higher vibration in 5D.