What 10K Hours of Experience Looks Like
Updated: Sep 6
I was out to lunch with a friend and she was started sharing so much about her life. Her perspective seemed to be so focused on self-rejection and self-hatred. As she told me more, I thought, “I can help her.” I threw myself out there and offered her 6 sessions. I got my first client!
THE FIRST 6 HOURS
At that lunch, I followed the nudge of my heart and put myself out there to help and she accepted. But I didn't want this coaching agreement to be casual. I want her to be committed to this journey, so I had her invest in herself financially (at a seriously affordable price - about 90% off of my current rate!) But this made it feel real. She filled out my client onboard packet and we got to work.
This agreement benefitted both of us. She needed the guidance, it was affordable for her, and I wanted to help her out. It was a win win and the beginning of me gaining experience.
After those first 6 sessions or 6 hours, I had experienced the love of coaching! Seeing her turn towards self-love was very rewarding. I called out to the Universe, "send me more people to serve, I know this is the right path for me."
HOW I REMAINED CONSISTENT (Hours 7 to 500)
The next couple of years I worked consistently with about 20 clients at a time. They would come to me with a problem on our free consultation call, I would assess the problem, and made sure I knew I could help them. And then I would then ask them to commit to a full 16 weeks of coaching.
This commitment was imperative because it helped them move through the blocks that would inevitably surface. I began to see that most people followed a similar pattern. Week 1-6 they would be feeling better week 7-11, they would have a setback, week 12-16 they would soar.
Knowing this, I needed to be there with them through the harder parts to help them find their way through it and into success. Times have definitely changed since then, and not everyone goes through these patterns but you may be able to see the patterns that your clients go through.
GETTING THROUGH THE OBSTACLES (Hours 500 - 2000)
There were as many slow times as there were rushes. In this space, I learned about how to really help people with consistency, commitment, and accomplishment. I saw hundreds of clients over the next 5 years. Each person was different and I found that a cookie cutter approach was not the best way to serve their individual needs.
I would deeply listen to my clients, reach into my tool belt and then hand them the most effective tool to help them in their situation. I also learned the importance of accountability and giving clients what they needed to be successful. In terms of accountability, I noticed that some clients needed a babysitter, while others needed a college professor. I also developed a very strong cancellation policy and let people know about this from the beginning. (24 hour cancellation or you will be charged for the full session.)
MY SIGNATURE METHOD WAS BORN (Hours 2000 - 5000)
I started to see patterns and themes in clients healing journeys. This is where my revolutionary theory of The 4 R’s Method was born. In order for clients to truly heal, I knew they had to start by recognizing their deep root wound, which is different from the presenting problem.
Once the root wound was found and understood we could move to the second R: Release and as I often say, this is where therapy stops. In traditional therapy they do not show you how to release your energy, they only show you what the energy (false belief, past memory) is. The release phase is where energy begin to lift, and we do that through a variety of healing modalities.
Then we move into the third R: Reprogram and this is where we begin to shift the space, using affirmation or as I call them reprogrammings. This is where we discover what energy we want to hold in that now cleared space and we program it in.
Then we reach the 4th R: Radiate. This is the result of the work that most clients are looking for. This is the sparkly stage where they are radiating new light, new energy, a new attitude, new beliefs and they get the results of their hard work.
MASTERING MY CRAFT (Hours 5000 to 10,000)
My process sped up quickly. What took me 16 weeks to accomplish now took me only 8 weeks.
I then decided to double my prices because I could get my a client a better, stronger result, much quicker. Doubling my prices was not the easiest step. I decided to alert my entire client base with a 15 month notice, letting them know my rates were changing and give them a sliding scale of increase depending on what they were paying and how long they were with me.
Some got very upset and left, others would have tripled the amount that they were paying to keep working with me. Both of these responses, however, I had learned to not take personally. I knew that they had nothing to do with me, but rather showed me more about what that client held inside.
I could now walk someone from wounded to freedom in just one session. I could lead them to their root wound and show them how to unwind it and give them supportive exercises to assist in their growth outside of their sessions.
Experience is not something you can buy, it is only something you can earn! And through the earning you grow and evolve in ways you cannot imagine. No matter where you are or what you are going through, you got this. Everything changes and as you continue using your life to serve others marvelous things happen. Focus on your blessings along the way and remember to give yourself pats on the back.
By Sophie Frabotta, MA
Author, Certified Spiritual Life Coach, Healer
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